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Ex Trying to Gain Physical Custody of Children

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Post #  0000067c
Please help Advice needed [Subject revised by webmaster: Ex Trying to Gain Physical Custody of Children]
From: [removed]
Remote Name: 24.129.218.109


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Here is the short version of my story in Dec 2003 my husband and I had been happily married for almost 4 years we had a 3 year old and and were expecting our second child in feb 2004 well 2 weeks before christmas he told me that being married was not fun anymore and he left and didnt look back he would call every few weeks and come by and see his son but thats about it. so here I am 7 1/2 months preg. with a 3 year old, working full time and getting no help from him. He didnt come to the hosp when our 2nd son was born he showed up about 4 hours after and then only came by 1 other time. Fast forward to oct 2004 after almost a year of fighting and no child support (by the way I had to go back to work 2 weeks after having a c-section) i get a call from him cause he was arrested and he wanted me to bail him out as stupid as I am I was going to he told me that he wanted to come home and be a better husband and father well i had to work on getting the money together he was there for 2 days while there he admitted to me that he had a major cocaine addiction the evening of day 2 he called me and told me that a friend was bailing him out and I told him to come home, well he told me there from jail that it was his girlfriend and that he wanted to try and work things out with her. I was very upset but I got over it. Well now that he is clean i am now this horrible person and a terrible mother and that he and his girlfriend are going to file for full custody (like that would ever happen) He told me during one of our fights that he could not wait to get the kids again cause gods knows the next time I would see them again Well my lawyer has advised to to only let him see them supervised but I feel so bad I want my boys to have their dad in their lives At one point he was a very good father I hate keeping my children away from their dad but I feel like I have to protect them and not just only them but myself cause I could not handle losing my boys i have been raising them this past year alone without any parental or fincial support Am I being selfish, once the court order is in place and it says that i get primary residential custody then he can see them when ever he wants to Please I dont want my children to suffer I can put aside what happened in our marriage for the sake of our children    (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 0000067d
Re: Please help Advice needed
From: [removed]
Remote Name: 152.163.101.9

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I must say I admire the fact that you want the boys to know him. While in fact he has done wrong he should be able to see them you are correct. However, I would be cautious with him until you know for certain that he no longer has a drug issue. That is neither good for him or a role model for his sons. I cannot stress enough not too alienate him but be sure this issue is not a ongoing thing. The girlfriend may be the very one that got him into drugs. I say just go forth with caution and if you go to court ask them to test him at random till you know he is clean, hoever be aware they may in fact test you too.........which probably is not a problem but nevertheless something you should be aware of. (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 0000067e
Re: Please help Advice needed
From: [removed] 
Remote Name: 24.129.218.109

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Thank you so much for the response I am going to let him see them And we will see how it goes and I will keep you posted  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  Post # 00000681
Re: Please help Advice needed
From: [removed]
Remote Name: 159.121.131.100

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I want my boys to have their dad in their lives. I wish my EX felt that way.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000682
Re: Please help Advice needed
From: [removed]
Remote Name: 64.136.27.225

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Both sons and daughters need both parents... walk in beauty...   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000683
Re: Please help Advice needed
From: [removed]
Remote Name: 24.116.187.70

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Have you tried working with the Ex, sometimes there is light out there...just gotta find it. Check your local resources, some of these people may be a big help, some may not, and start writing all of this down, affidavit after affidavit. In the end it is the kids that will always suffer. Never bad talk the ex, speaking from experience it will get you no-where. Never give up  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  00000710 
Re: Please help Advice needed
From: [removed]
Remote Name: 68.80.253.177

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You are very astute. Get full control to protect the kids and then open the door as far as it is safe. protect the kids who don't understand who the good guy always is.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000846
Re: Please help Advice needed
From: [removed]
Remote Name: 68.53.117.63

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Be very careful, I felt the same way, encouraged my daughters to realize that he was still their father no matter what, but unfortunately he doesnt feel the same, esp since there is now a new mommy in the picture, they are victims of PAS and I am now called by my first name, treated with total disrespect and contempt. Dont let this happen to you.If i could go back and do it again, he wouldnt have a chance to do this.    (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

 

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