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Alienation/International Abduction after 
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Post # 0000005e
Help: Alienation/International Abduction
From: Scott
Date: 10/23/00
Time: 10:48:28 PM
Remote Name: 12.82.129.160

Comments
Sorry, this is going to be somewhat long-winded, but there is no way to be brief. I've been in a bloodletting of a custody fight for nearly six years now.

When my daughter was 6 months old, I moved out of state for a new job; my wife and baby girl were to follow three months later...My wife called me after I had been gone for about a week, insisting on a divorce instead; she would entertain no attempt at resolution or reconciliation...I really didn't know what this whole thing was really about anyway.
Liquidating the estate and resolving the attached debt took about a year and a half; the same length of time that finalizing the divorce did. After this period of time, I moved back to Washington and re-entered my daughter's life...she was 2 years old at that time. After approximately 4 months of limited visitation, my ex wife refused to expand the parenting plan, allowing me more time with my little girl. She took it one step further, and offered to absolve me of any financial obligations for my daughter if I would get out, and stay out of her life forever...I refused, as she had no idea what I had gone through in order to get back into my little girl's life.

My ex-wife then accused me of sexually abusing my daughter. It was dismissed within the psychological community, as well as at law; regular visitation was resumed and increased...until my ex once again claimed that I had sexually abused my daughter. The second time around, I became physically ill upon reading the disgusting and graphic nature of the lies that she had put down on a false criminal complaint. This time, I wasn't able to see my little girl for 11 months.

Round 2 was much more involved, and included 2 polygraph tests, a penile plethysmograph test, and a lengthy parenting evaluation for me; the conclusion being that I had not mistreated my daughter. My little girl got a year of intermittent, and very leading "therapy"...at least enough to make a good showing on paper. The ex just sat back and watched as everyone dance on strings. It all finally came to an end (or so I had thought) with a 2-week trial.
The conclusion of law was that I not abused my little girl. The judge also agreed with the parenting evaluators that my ex acted out of mental defect, and was ordered to seek psychiatric help. She was further advised that if she persisted in this type of behavior, that I would become the sole residential parent. Unbelievably, custody was split 45/55, the ex still maintaining primary custody...that's right: Someone that a court of law has acknowledged is in need of psychiatric help is allowed to maintain custody of an innocent child, that has already been hurt far too much.

Try as she had, my ex was unable to break the bond between my baby girl, then 4, and myself. Worse yet, the ex never for a moment considered the anguish, pain, and very real damage she was causing for our daughter.

The ex wasn't having any of this shared custody, let alone psychiatric help for herself, so she took my little girl and fled the country. They are currently residing in Costa Rica.

Multiple counts of contempt are pending in civil court, and a criminal case is also pending...none of which matter if the petitioner/defendant is not physically present.

It's been 2 years since I've seen my baby girl. I've exhausted every avenue in terms of attempted recovery. I'm up against a legal system that has little to no interest in my daughter's best interest; a federal government that refuses to intervene because they may ruffle someone's feathers; the stigma of having been accused of mistreating my own child...the worst of all however, is not knowing. Not knowing if my daughter is OK; if she likes her school and what subjects she likes, or needs help with; if she gets enough love and attention from her mother; if she misses me, her family, her cat, and her home; if she has learned to swim yet...I could go on and on.

I'm now at a point where all I can do is wait and see what happens. My health, career, and other relationships are beginning to suffer as a result of this living nightmare. Any referrals to Puget Sound-based support groups for people in similar situations would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
Best Regards,
Scott Bellevue, WA
(Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 0000005f
Help: Alienation/International Abduction
From: Scott.Critchfield@worldnet.att.net
Date: 10/25/00
Time: 1:04:11 AM
Remote Name: 12.82.128.63

Comments
Just a brief adjustment of my contact information regarding my posting of 10-23-00.
Scott Critchfield Bellevue, WA e-mail: Scott.Critchfield@worldnet.att.net  (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

 

 

 

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