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Difficulties with persons who 
seemingly have a "Narcisstic personality"

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Post #  000006a4 
has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty
From: mom who lost 
Remote Name: 150.142.234.147

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Last changed: February 26, 2006  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000006a7
Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty
From: devinsbuddy
Remote Name: 64.136.27.225

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your frequent posts from a health organization make me wonder if you are writing a book or working on a school project...My ex wife does not qualfy as narcisstic but her mother, Patricia McManimon and her sister Mary Mcmanimon-Garland have all the tendencies of the classic narcisstic personality disorder.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 000006a8
Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty
From: Cdn. step mom
Remote Name: 64.228.227.16

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My present spouse who is the non-custodial parent has been victimized with PAS by his ex and her new spouse. Although both have been diagnosed via two psychological expertises as having "cluster B" type personality disorders and this being considered factual in the eyes of the court, the wheels of justice grind terrbly slow. Both are considered Narcisistic and also with Borderline and Histrionic tendencies. Just wanted to let you know that I have read some literature on the subject and it is not uncommon for these obsessed alienators to be stricken with such 'B' type personality disorders. Since the severely alienated child identifies strongly psychologically with the alienating parent, they also possibly could develop a similar disorder. More reason to fight for your child/children since their future mental health is at stake. Educating the judge who is presiding over your case about the real dangers of severe PAS should be your attorney's top proirity for a sucessful outcome. GOOD LUCK!!!   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  000006ab.
Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty
From: Cherie
Remote Name: 64.12.117.9

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My ex who alienated my son from me and continues to try to alienate my other two from me is the POSTER BOY FOR NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER and his new wife definitely has a personality disorder, possibly borderline.   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000006fb
Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty
From: reginadepriest@aol.com
Remote Name: 64.12.117.9

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Yes! I didn't know what had hit me. Thrown into the mix was Jehovah Witness religion that I had originally thought was harmless. I found out long after the process had started. I am emotionally and physically wrecked and have no place else to turn to. Please tell me your story.   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  000006d9
Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty
From: liz
Remote Name: 213.122.93.112

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my brother was married to a narcissist. he lost his freedom and his kids.I am seen as athreat and can't even have contact with them. I want to rebuild a relationship with them and my boys want to regain contact. but we aren't allowed near them.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000857
Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty
From: Faithinunseen@aol.com
Remote Name: 205.188.117.68

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I am married to a man who is narcisstic and yes..it is hell..I try to allow God to work on my own healthy boundaries with him but it is hard..Email me if you would like support..Thanks..Amanda.   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 0000073f
Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty?
From: common triat in ex husbands...and moms who experienced PAS
Remote Name: 150.142.235.46

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my daughter hangs up every time i call....which has been over 2 years now, i have acknowledged birthdays, holidays, etc. with cards...and some gifts....i don't believe in sending money. any feedback,,,,my communication has been completely cut off except between attorneys, i have vague visatation,in the order it states: upon consent of mother and daughter when deemed appropriate,,,she is only thirteen ,,,,i had primary physical custody up until 2 years ago when she claimed false abuse.....no food in the house, i was yelling at her and i was never home,,,cps investigated and unfounded.....i am broken in pieces with a broken heart   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  0000073c
Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty?
From: Been thru it 
Remote Name: 67.165.255.19

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I was with a man who is a sociopath with narcissistic tendencies. I feel and know after extensive research and 13 years on and off therapy at different times in my life, mostly after having to deal with him, (I made the mistake of having a child with him, he forced me she is sixteen now).  If it wasn't for her I would have ran and even changed my name if I could have. Ever see sleeping with the enemy? That movie convinced me I needed to leave to save my soul and my life. I, also due to financial reasons left my then three year old with him. I was so scared, and he had me so convinced that he would never leave me in peace, I believed him and still do because he has tried to hurt me too many times through her, but he has no power over me now.  I could write volumes of what he did, but do not feel that this would help.  If you feel different I am happy to share to reassure that you are not alone. What I can tell you is this, there is no such thing as winning or losing. I know deeply the pain and lonlieness that you feel, how some ignorant people may judge you, but mostly how much you unfortunately must judge yourself. I do not know your story, because I haven't found it on the postings maybe? My first rule is to love yourself! If you feel that you cannot, fake it until you make it! Do not look outside of yourself like I did, I had a lot of "boyfriends" mostly nice, but I did take some chances with my health and heart. Find a good open-hearted older therapist who has had children. Try several if needed.Get out in nature and focus on doing things for yourself use your time to heal and get stronger, because I have learned that it is never truly over or too late. I do not know the terms of your visitation, hopefully you have SOME. Call, Send cards, small gifts whenever you can and even tapes, dvd's or videotapes of you, pics of you and whatever you come across as something that will mean something special to them. Never show your feelings towards him, (your-ex) and avoid explaining yourself or defending yourself when or if they ask hurtful questions because if he is a narcissist the children will constantly talk of him, they will be his supply, and he requires admiration or is on the other end of the spectrum he lacks empathy for anyone and can try to show you up at all times. He is the perfect one who looks so good to authority because he knows how to lie and you do not.  That is where mom who lost got me, it is hard what you were up against, but is not impossible. Keep quiet with them no matter how much it hurts and then go home and journal to record everything and also to release. Keep detailed records if you can keep it from letting it drag you down. Sometimes it seems that it is easier to just escape, but your children will want to know you believe me. Do not ever give the lies that he will feed them credence by acting out digging for information or stop contact. I hope that this helps. Please let me know.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

 

 

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