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Post # 00000529
In Fear Of My Own Children
Remote Name: 126.96.36.199
My son (15) and daughter (13) live with their father, again. I have been divorced from him for ten years and several years after child support started holding out money from his check he decided he wanted my children to come and live with him and convinced them to lie and act out in order to come to live with him. He told them lies about me putting them in a closet when they were babies and they felt sorry their dad had to give me money because he worked hard for his money and I was evil for taking it. They soon started acting up and he would call CPS and report everything from leaving them alone to beating them with coat hangers (he watched to much t.v) He also said my present husband beat them daily. My children have never been beat! My children would lie for their father and that hurt. I gave up (mistake #1) and let them go live with him because of fear of one day getting in trouble. As soon as the court cleared him of the 23,000 in back support and ordered me to pay they were back in my home but the damage was done. My daughter who is bipolar learned she could get what she wanted by using her Dad as a weapon. He does not think she needs help and refuses to get her back on her medication and she gets so violent I had to hold her down until she calmed down from trying to hit me so she went and told the school I put a pillow over her face and tried to kill her. I was even called to the police department and they let me see the interview from my ex-husband who made us out to be monsters and him the poor struggling dad who only wanted to protect his children. I just don't know what to do CPS ordered him to seek treatment for my daughter but he refuses but they wont follow up. I love my children and I am full of guilt and pain but I have refused to let my daughter come back over until she gets the help she needs because of fear. Is that wrong? And my son who is 15 only calls or comes over if he needs something. The only thing that keeps me going is my 7 year old son and family. I used to worry what other people thought but now I feel my friends and family know me and what is going on and thats all that matters. I felt so alone and like the worse mother in the world until I found this site. If you would like to share stories or just write e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org (Last changed: February 26, 2006)
Post # 0000057b
Re: In Fear Of My Own Children
Remote Name: 188.8.131.52
You poor, poor lady. You are a perfect example of being dehumanized into a set of folders in various filing cabinets. Forget about these various arms of the government. They exist for the purpose of keeping you separated. Your one best chance is for YOU to suddenly break contact. That is right, YOU. Your children might press to re establish contact because they miss being able to hate and hurt you. A long shot? You bet. But it is the only thing I have seen to work. (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )
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