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Frustration & Wanting to Give Up; Parents Alienated From Children

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Post # 000005af
I give up
From: a mother who lost her daughter to alienation
Remote Name: 150.142.234.177

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the pain is just too much, and no one seems to care.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

Post # 000005bc
Re: I give up
From: mother lost daughter to parental alienation and ex shops therapists
Remote Name: 150.142.233.88


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(Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 000005b3
Re: I give up
From: mg
Remote Name: 68.134.1.153

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Hi. I want to cheer you up... of course, I'm in a similar target pattern. Read about my sliced ham prank on the creep who turned my lovely, smart girls against me.... just resurfacing after a 3 day crying session with no lettup, absolute despair. Grab the human rights page to see worse than we have. Other folks help, even the 7-11 clerk. sometimes,, its all I get. (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 000005b6
Re: I give up
From: 
Remote Name: 68.114.121.226

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I am sorry you are hurting so badly. I lost my daughter for awhile. Her stepmom was doing a job on her. And to be honest, she is easily bought. My husband has been alienated from his children for four years. We gave up for awhile last year. But when Christmas day came and he couldn't get a call through and his ex's brother told it wasn't his business where his kids were, that did it. We spent the whole day on the internet. We found the do's and don't of PAS. Don't ever give up was the one that called out. It said work at thier school, get out in the public, use the media. My husband was involved in getting a couple of bills turned into law this year in Louisiana. They don't have much teeth to them, but next year they will go back and make more. We had an article writen in the paper, and we to all their activities. Remember that the kids are the victim, even if they are the killing you. They didn't ask for the parents they got or the divorce. I don't know your story, but I feel a great deal of responsability for what my husbands kids are going through, and for what my kids have been through. I will tell you that the only way we have come to be able to fight our hardest, be in uncomfortable possitions and find any happiness at all is our church. We have found other parents that have been alienated as well. They are a great support. Just last night, I found a grown man in our small group has never really known his dad. His dad is in a home and asking for him now. I hope he goes to his father. Maybe he'll learn the truth. Your child loves you, but is not allowed to let that feeling come to the surface. Keep fighting. Keep praying. Put it in Gods hands, it's too much for you to bear alone. We have been concidering adopting a child that needs a loving dad. He has so much to give. And there are so many that need love. Good luck to you Debbie 
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Post #  000005b9
Re: I give up
From: snuz2luz
Remote Name: 152.163.100.197

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I too wondered if I'd be able to love her again after all the angry outbursts and hurtful things that she's done to me. It's been very helpful to stop thinking about those things and remember the good times we had. Most of all, you have to remember that she is being programmed to do these things. And last of all, I had to let go of my quilt for not being able to stop the abuse that the kids suffer from their father. They are considered mature enough to make these decisions by the courts and there is nothing that I have done that would stop them from returning to me if they chose too. However, everyone knows that children choose the parent that they can get the most out of without having any real rules. In short, they chose the bad parent. Hang in there.
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Post # 000005ba
Re: I give up
From: Heather
Remote Name: 12.202.118.224

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You are so right! We've been saying this since it all started...the child does choose the bad parent because of what they can get and because of the lack of rules. Makes it so much harder on the parent who's working hard to be "the parent."  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000005bb
Re: I give up
From: i give up
Remote Name: 150.142.233.88

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there is no reason for me to be here, for i will not be able to watch my daughter grow up. i lost my mother when i was only 15 yrs old to cancer and my father died only two years later of a stroke. i was then only 17years old. losing my daughter now , feels like death.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000005c1
Re: I give up
From: 
Remote Name: 68.114.121.226

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My husband lost his father at thirteen. His mother then married a man who stole from all of them. He's a mean, obnoxious man that drove my husband away from his mother. He has now been alienated from his three children. His daughter say's she will have her maternal grandfather walk her down the isle when she gets married. But because we have found a great church with supportive peole who have been through simular things, he now is doing fine. He has faith that someday things with his children will be better. Please don't do anything to harm yourself. Your daughter needs you. Someday she will realize that. Children who have parents that commit suiside are far more likely to do the same. Do not give her that legacy. I know that it is hard. I felt like doing the same, not so long ago. Please find a church that can teach you about the bible. The compfort it can give you is unimaginable right now. I pulled away from God when I was mizerable. I let the devil win. It was my choice. I am very greatful that my husband was stronger then me and helped me to find where I belonged. God your father is waiting for you to ask him for help. He is just waiting.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

 

 

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